Even though my blog isn’t that old, it was time that I re-vamped things a little. When I decided to start blogging, I wanted to journalize (I know that’s not a word) my life. I wanted to be able to talk about what I wanted to talk about. Then I decided to focus on making printables. But I have a story to tell. That is the story of being a single mom in the dating game. So I decided to launch The Suddenly Single Chronicles.
I love that picture! Yes that’s me looking cute with an orchid in my hair. A few weeks ago, February 3rd 2017 to be exact, I went to South Beach Miami, Florida to celebrate my 40th, yes 40th birthday. I had the time of my life! Now, there are a lot of things you see in that picture but one thing not pictured is the “man” that treated me to this most wondrous birthday getaway. The same man who once we returned asked me to keep the pictures of us “close to my heart”. In other words, keep them off social media. I had people asking me if I went to Miami alone. This got me to thinking, how did I get to this point? How did I fall for a man that, to quote Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, won’t “PROFESS” his love for me?
I’ll tell you how I got here. Almost two years of wining and dining and great sex. Yes ladies, I fell on and for the “D”. What was only supposed to be a friendship, started to feel like a relationship. Dinners, dancing, gift exchanges, crazy fun moments, lots of laughs, lots of tears, and a lot of quality time. But at the end of the day, we were nothing more than friends with benefits. In my opinion, he benefited more than I did. In a matter of weeks we went from a trip to Miami to not talking at all. Of course that puts us right around Valentine’s Day. The day he told me he didn’t celebrate. I couldn’t tell if I was the side chick or the main chick. All I knew was that this Valentine’s day was going to suck!
The series of events that transpired over the last few days has inspired me to share my stories of being single. And as a result, The Suddenly Single Chronicles were born. This last moment of silence (no text responses or calling) hurt like hell but I’ve come to the realization that it is time to move on so that I can find real love. I have been divorced for over 10 years now. That’s a decade of being single and within that decade I have gone on very little dates, kissed plenty of frogs, and had maybe two relationships that I can say were monogamous and consistent for about 6 or 7 months. Surely, I can’t be the only woman having trouble finding a good man or the only woman that has ever gotten herself caught up in a “friendifits” (friends with benefits) affair. I want to share my experiences and stories and I want you to share yours. So leave a comment below and tell me about your experiences or give me some advice. Then check back for more crazy dating stories. Trust me, there’s more where this came from. This is just the tip of the iceberg.
Until next time…Suddenly Single ♥